If you are single and ready to mingle, I hope you aren’t discouraged by the fact that no one is asking you out.
Maybe you’ve noticed a pattern of men passing you by over and over again for no obvious reason.
You see someone you are attracted to, and begin to show interest. After a while you give up because you think he’s either blind, doesn’t like women, or maybe he decided to join the ranks of a priestly brotherhood who pledged a life free from women.
Then you may start to wonder if something is wrong with you; you start second guessing every move you make.
It’s not that you aren’t a great catch.
Sometimes, all of us need a little more self-awareness to balance us out. We all need to know how we are presenting ourselves, or not, to the world. Unless you have people around you who are willing to be honest with you, you may not know how you are being perceived by men.
Soooo, because I love you, I’m going to help you out.
I’ve done the research. Yes, I talked to the men that you want to ask you out and gathered different reasons as to why they won’t get in the game.
And here is what they said:
1.You’re unApproachable. “It kinda goes without saying that if you look like a librarian, a nun, or a stern teacher who would tar and feather anyone for coming in your personal space, you’re scary.” (Gary K.)
Guy’s think it’s an automatic setup for rejection.
Rejection feels good, said no man ever.
Men have feelings too. Even though many have survived rejection and learned from it, no man is going to willingly sign up for it. So if you look like you don’t like people, fun, or life in general, he’s going to turn the other way.
Do yourself a favor. Relax. Smile. Stop taking yourself so seriously.
2. You’re always hanging out with a guy friend or a mob of girlfriends. It’s hard enough to approach you when you’re by yourself. But “the thought of approaching you when you’re with your friends, is intimidating and sometimes embarrassing.” (P.J.)
And if one of those friends is a guy, how is anyone supposed to know he’s your “bro” and not your bae?
I’m not saying you should cancel girls’ night out. But if you see someone you may be attracted to, try and separate yourself from the group long enough to let him know you’re interested.
Make eye contact and smile. A lot.
3. He just not that into you. So you’ve ditched the girlfriends, put a smile on your face and made eye contact. But he still hasn’t made a move. It’s time to face the reality that maybe you’re not his type. “It’s nothing against you personally, I just have something or someone else on my mind.” (Kaylon T.)
At the end of the day, if he’s not into you, then he’s not the one that God has for you. And you’re better off without him. Because you deserve someone who’s just as interested in you as you are in him.
So keep smiling, keep shining, keep being you.
4. On the surface, it appears that there’s no place for a man in your life. If you’re a boss babe who’s well put together—head to toe, you drive an expensive car, and you live good, …..chances are he notices.
No, he’s not intimidated by your success. In fact, “confident men admire successful women who have dreams and a fulfilling life of their own.” (Mike D.)
But he sees two potential problems with this.
One: other than being your trophy, he’s trying to figure out what he could possibly offer you. Because a good man wants to add value to your life. He wants to take care of you; share what he knows; and protect you from something.
If it appears that you can do all of that for yourself, certain types of men won’t approach you with the notion of starting a relationship.
And problem #two: he’s wondering if the same qualities, that make you successful at work, will be used against him in a relationship. Will he have to compete with your aggression, hyper-opinions and sassiness?
When I’m off the clock, I don’t want to power struggle with a boss babe; I want a partner. (Sterling H.)
So, in the end, it’s more important that you lead with your nurturing, feminine side, instead of your accomplishments.
Because that’s what men are most attracted to. Everything else, is just icing on the cake.
5. Your prayers are being answered. If you’ve ever asked God to give you His perfect will and shield you from anything and anyone who was not right from you, He heard you. Maybe this guy you’re wanting to ask you out isn’t in God’s plan or God’s timing for you.
Be grateful that God has something better for you.
Now you can relax and trust Him, because he’s in control.