Every girl loves a good romantic love story that ends with a happily ever after. This all started when we were first read the story of how Cinderella went from old-maid to princess.
We dreamed of the day that we would be the star of our own real life fairy tale, complete with a Prince Charming who moves heaven and hell to sweep us off our feet.
But here’s where Cinderella failed us.
The happily ever after doesn’t happen if you believe you’re only an old-maid who isn’t worth the dust she cleans from library shelves.
Because, on the surface we all want to be loved and accepted for who we are. We want the man of our dreams to fight for us and not against us. We all want a love that lasts forever.
But deep inside, not all of us believe that we truly deserve it.
And I can tell a lot about what a girl thinks she deserves by the choices she makes in men.
Healthy women will always choose men who respect them.
They wouldn’t settle for anything less. They would rather be alone, than with a frog. Loser. Cheater. Or moocher who depends on them for everything, but doesn’t reciprocate.
I can’t stress to women enough that they should never settle for the crumbs of one-sided relationships that leave them feeling empty and used.
But it seems like the more I tell women not to settle for less than what they deserve, the more they settle.
Then it hit me.
Could it be that the reason most women accept less than mediocrity is because they don’t fully understand that they’re worth so much more?
Maybe they don’t know what they deserve.
Maybe they’ve been carrying baggage for so long that they don’t know that what they’re feeling is not normal.
For the record, it’s not normal for someone to tell you they love you and continuously lie to you at the same time. Even if they say that the reason they lied is so that you wouldn’t be hurt.
Honestly, if they hadn’t done that thing to hurt you in the first place, there would be no reason to lie.
If they were that concerned about your feelings, they never would have acted selfishly to begin with.
Yet, they acted in their own best interest knowing it would hurt you if you found out.
And now it’s time for you to act in your own best interest.
Until you are fully convinced of your worth, you’ll never be able to convince anyone else.
It’s time for you to convince yourself that you’re worth so much more than what you’ve allowed yourself to believe all these years.
I’ve compiled a list of scriptures for you to ponder every day until you believe them. Print them and read them out loud, while putting your name in the blank spaces.
- ___________________ can do all things through Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:13)
- ___________________ is God’s workmanship, created in Christ unto good works (Ephesians 2:10)
- ___________________ is a joint-heir with Christ (Romans 8:17)
- ___________________ is the head and not the tail; I am above only and not beneath (Deuteronomy 28:13)
- ___________________ is redeemed from the curse of sin, sickness, and poverty (Deuteronomy 28:15-68; Galatians 3:13)
- ___________________ is greatly loved by God (Romans 1:7; Ephesians 2:4; Colossians 3:12; 1 Thessalonians 1:4)
- God has not given ___________________ a spirit of fear; but of power, love, and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7)
- ___________________is far from oppression, and fear does not come near me (Isaiah 54:14)
- ___________________has the Greater One living in me; greater is He Who is in me than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4)
- ___________________is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14)
- ___________________’s body is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1Corinthians 6:19)
- ___________________ is more than a winner (Romans 8:37)
- ___________________ is a virtuous woman who is worth far more than rubies (Proverbs 31: 10 – 31)
P.S. I promise you, if you change your mind, you will change your life. You will not accept anything less than what you deserve. You will no longer allow negative people to use you as a garbage can for all of their insecurities.