A. Hi Keila, based on the information that you provided, there’s quite a bit that you need to consider before moving forward.
1. 10 years is a long time to be in an abusive relationship. Because broken relationships leave us vulnerable, it’s likely that you need the closure of divorce, AND you need time to learn from your mistakes, AND you need to be cleansed / healed of any residue from the relationship. Otherwise, you could easily be taken advantage of.
2. Your co-worker stated that he is not ready for kids and he knows that you have 2 kids. When the time is right, you deserve someone who will embrace you AND your kids. The 3 of you are a package deal. They are a beautiful gift from God and you shouldn’t have to negotiate or compromise that to make him happy. You certainly shouldn’t have to push them on him in order to convince him to like them. Your children come first and after having gone through the troubled relationship with you, they need love and acceptance more than anything, right now.
3. If the two of you are working closely on projects at work, and your relationship doesn’t work out, do you really think it will be easy to come to work and see him everyday?
So, to sum it all up: because you’re still going through a divorce and are vulnerable; because you are a parent and he doesn’t want kids; because you’re getting confusing signals from a grown man who should know how to communicate, I’m going to take a chance and say he’s not ready for a serious relationship and neither are you.
He will probably be more than happy to accommodate you in a sexual relationship BUT because you’re worth so much more than that, I strongly suggest that you run to the nearest exit.
You owe yourself so much more than to settle for this situation.