How your Personality affects Dating and Marriage
As newly-weds, my husband and I spent a lot of time frustrated over nit-picky arguments that we couldn’t resolve. I wanted to him to be more like me so that I could understand him. But unfortunately, he came with his own life and style and he didn’t care to exchange it for mines.
But when my pastor’s wife started teaching on personalities, I had several aha moments. I realized my husband wasn’t so weird after all. And even if he was, being weird didn’t necessarily make him wrong. It made him different.
There are several people in the world just like him. And God made them that way on purpose so the rest of us could capitalize on their strengths and help them grow beyond their weaknesses.
Eventually I stopped trying to change him and gradually started accepting him for who he was.
But even more important, I learned that I’m weird too, and it’s OK. For years I pretended to be someone I wasn’t in order to be accepted by others.
I tried to project more openness and extroversion to avoid being called snooty. I pretended to be less intelligent to avoid being called a nerd. I have gone as far as to change the way I dress, the way I walked, and the way I ate —all for the sake of pleasing people.
But when I learned that those were all personality traits that I shared with other people just like me, I began to embrace them. I no longer felt like something was wrong with me. For once I felt like I had comrades who understood what it was like to be me and who could validate the fact that I wasn’t crazy —just different.
Personality psychology will change your life and relationships by helping you to:
- Create better relationships with husbands and boyfriends
- Stop comparing your husband to other men
- Understand your husband and fulfill his emotional needs without him having to ask
- Stop trying to change your children
- Be more patient with your co-workers
- Appreciate the role others were meant to play in your life
- Own who you are and stop trying to be like others
Learning about Personalities changed my life and my relationships!
Personalities are God-given assets that make you who you are. We all have different roles to play in the world, as well as in our families, and if He had made us all alike and given us all the same personalities, some jobs would be left undone. Or even worse, they’d have to be done by someone who isn’t qualified.
17 If the whole body were an eye, how would you hear? Or if your whole body were an ear, how would you smell anything?
18 But our bodies have many parts, and God has put each part just where he wants it. 19 How strange a body would be if it had only one part! 20 1Corinthians 12:17 – 20
Our differences are necessary because we are designed to do different jobs! Yet, when we get in close relationships we try to change each other to make ourselves comfortable.
But the more you understand about personalities, the better you’ll be able to appreciate the reason God put certain people in your life.
Personality psychology is one of my favorite subjects to study. I could go on and on about it. Over the next few weeks, I’m going to send posts to help you understand your personality better and how it affects your relationships.
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