“We must believe in luck. How else can we explain the success of those we don’t like?” Jean Cocteau
Does it seem as if no matter how hard you try, you can‘t seem to get a man? Yet the girl you feel is unworthy always has one?
It is a harsh reality that most won’t admit, but at some point, we’ve all been jealous of a girl that we’ve considered to be ugly; less than attractive;
all none of that.
We’ve all wondered “what does she have that I don’t have?” Or “what the heck is she doing with a guy like him?”
Is love really blind or is there is an art to getting a man and keeping a man? Here are four reasons why the “ugly” girl may be lucky in love.
- Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Just because she is unattractive to you, doesn’t mean that he feels the same. Everyone wants to be with someone who appeals to their taste; however not everyone has the same taste. Maybe he sees something that you can’t see on the surface, such as a generous heart or the courage to try new things. Chances are she’s met a guy who knows that beauty is only skin deep. Whatever the reason, you better believe it’s not based merely on her looks.
- She makes him feel like “da man.” Let’s face it. Some women know how to make their men feel strong and manly, while others insist on being independent for fear of appearing weak and vulnerable. Simply put, men need to feel needed. They want to be crowned as the hero who saves you from life’s calamities. It doesn’t make you weak to depend on him for certain things; it actually makes you stronger to submit to his masculinity. It’s okay to wait on him to get your door, pay for dinner, or kill a spider—he was wired for that. Sure, you could do those things for yourself but why not give the job to someone who wants to assert his purpose in your life. Besides, you have better things to do.
- She is low maintenance. As much as men enjoy looking at a woman who is well put together from head to toe, they dread the amount of time, money and energy that goes into the package. Occasionally, they want the freedom to take their lady bike riding, swimming, or hiking without her constantly worrying about her hair. A low maintenance woman doesn’t necessarily rely on her looks to keep her man interested. She knows that her laid-back, fun loving personality can be just as important to him. She feels like his cover girl whether she’s wearing makeup or not.
- She is happy, secure and confident. Confidence makes all the difference in how a girl presents herself to the world. A girl’s lack of confidence can cause her relationship to crash and burn quicker than any other flaw. To the contrary, a surplus of confidence can draw men like a magnet, while making you totally irresistible. Having self-confidence means you fully accept yourself: good, bad and ugly (pun intended). When you are able to accept yourself, you are able to do the same for others. Because people love to hang out with people who make them feel good about themselves. More than anything, the confident girl never crosses the line between making him feel needed and being needy. She doesn’t require nonstop attention and validation because she already knows that she’s hot. Sure, lots of guys choose arm candy to boost their egos, but even arm candy gets old if there’s no depth to it.
Regardless of how you feel about the “ugly” girl, she obviously knows something that you don’t know. If you really want to keep your man around longer, take a page from her book. Learn how to make him feel like he’s in charge while exuding confidence everywhere you go. He’ll be proud to show you off.
C’mon now be honest. Have you ever been jealous of someone who you felt didn’t deserve something or someone?